Talebearing

A mark of strong Christian character is to keep the private matters of others confidential. Revealing harmful secrets to those who do not have part in the matter fractures relationships and creates division in the church. Instead of gossiping we should attempt to privately restore a brother or sister who is erring. When we earn a reputation for being able to keep a confidence, we will be able to minister to many people when they go through crisis. 


Proverbs 11:13 A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.


Proverbs 18:8 The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.


Proverbs 20:19 He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.


Proverbs 26:20 Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.


Genesis 9:20-23 And Noah began to be an husbandman, and he planted a vineyard:

21 And he drank of the wine, and was drunken; and he was uncovered within his tent.

22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brethren without.

23 And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's nakedness.


1 Peter 4:8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.


Galatians6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.


  1. What is the underlying motive of a gossiper?

  2. Have you ever been guilty of being a talebearer?

  3. When is it appropriate to break a confidence?


Pastor Jonathan Shoemake